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SISTERS' JOURNEY
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Welcome to another year of courageous stories about breast cancer survival. My brother and I would like to take a moment to share with you what Sisters Journey means to us and what we think it meant to our mother, Linda White-Epps. Sisters Journey is about bringing awareness of breast
cancer and its devastation to the community. Our mother wanted to give women
of color support and hope at a time when she felt they had none (there were
times when she felt this hopelessness for herself). She always believed that
if Those of us who are not breast cancer survivors have no
idea what it is truly like to be one. Just like those of you whom never lost
a parent and a best friend have any idea how difficult that is. We can only
imagine and support one another. But as children of a survivor, we know you
need We continued to watch the fear in your eyes every time
you went to an annual doctors visit. You were afraid they might say “you
have cancer all over again,” even though you feel you have done everything
you could not to hear that ever again. We also noticed in your eyes the
celebration of another year of survivorship, especially when you get past
five years and After watching our mom struggle through her years of surviving and then her fight to the end, we feel our mother died with dignity and God in her heart. She did as much as she could for those that she knew and even those she didn’t. This calendar was more than just an idea,
discussion, or topic that our mother liked to talk about. It was her
passion! And every year once the calendar was complete, you would think she
would be able to relax, but she would get started on the next year. Now that
it has been almost a year since she passed, we realized that this calendar
was not only a Please join us in
congratulating the survivors in this year’s calendar on their courage,
strength and the willingness to help others by letting their remarkable
stories be told. May God bless all of you!
Nora Price- January 2005 October 29, 2001, was the day I was diagnosed with
breast cancer. Isn’t it amazing how cancer survivors remember that day as if
it were a birthday? But I wasn’t celebrating that day. Instead, I worried
that my life would forever hover in gloom and sickness. Would I ever laugh
and dance again? Would I live to see grandchildren? Little did I know that
my life would It all began at about 3:00 one morning as I lay awake with insomnia. I felt
tenderness and a small lump under my right breast. Because I regularly
performed self-breast exams
and had annual mammograms, I thought the tenderness
must be from the estrogen I was taking. But after a week, the Terrified, I made an appointment with my gynecologist. He
felt the lump but concluded it was probably just muscle
tissue. That was encouraging. But I still had a gnawing
feeling. I hoped my upcoming mammogram would let me
know for sure. Mammograms are somewhat uncomfortable, As I sat in the waiting room shortly after the biopsy, my
surgeon gave me the diagnosis. He also assured me that
we would “get the cancer.” All I could think of was, “How?”
My husband Calvin, my daughter Marissa and I sat quietly in
shock for what seemed like hours. They were there for me Still, the next days were filled with anger, numbness, and
fear. How could two doctors and technology have failed me?
How long would I live? How would I tell my beloved sister,
Carol, that I had breast cancer? So I faced the lumpectomy, chemotherapy, and radiation treatments with a positive outlook. I even got to like the feeling of having shower water tap on my bald head. Bald was liberating! Did you know there are thirty ways to dress up a saltine cracker? Same with my head! Sure, there were rough times and unpleasant side effects, but the cancer was treatable. I was determined to live! Now, as a survivor of almost three years, I thank God for taking me under his wing; for giving me my loving husband, daughter, sister, cousins; a blessed church family and my dear friends. I love each day that I’m alive. I do not feel alone because I know there are other breast cancer survivors who are there for me, as I am there for them. I now have excellent doctors who continue to provide me with the best of care. I
have tried to embrace each year with an open heart and
soul, and have learned a few simple lessons I wish to share:
Prayer is powerful. God is a healing God. Thank Him for
your blessings. Listen to your instincts. It may save your life.
Take control of your own health and body. Be forgiving.
Carole Berrios- February 2005 As a result of His plan, I
was able to raise my babies; hold down full time
Camille Thorton- March 2005 Throughout the ages the female breasts have been the
embodiment of femininity and motherhood. A women’s
breast feeds and nourishes the young in all civilized and
animal cultures. For centuries our breasts have been a
portraiture of our sexuality and attraction of the masculine I was a divorced, 72-year-old retired TWA employee living in
Peach Tree City, GA when I discovered a pea-sized lump in
my right breast. Consumed with a past history of fibrocystic
disease while living in Los Angeles, CA (resulting in the
removal of benign tumors during three separate surgeries Reluctantly, in June, 1998, I sought medical attention. My primary care physician, alarmed by my negligence and the size of the tumor, scheduled a mammogram and an appointment with Eligio Abellera, MD, within the week. I have three children, Barbara, Tom and Dave. My daughter Barbara, the eldest of the three, accompanied me to the doctor’s office. We returned the following day for laboratory results. I watched terror rise in my daughter’s eyes as Dr. Abellera voiced his diagnosis. I had breast cancer. Two days later, he performed a right radical mastectomy that revealed a 6x6x4 cm breast cancer. My right breast had been taken from by body. Three weeks later, Gurinderjit Sidu, MD, oncologist with Atlanta Cancer Care, administered the first of seven cycles of CMF chemotherapy ending in November, 1998. Also recommended were six weeks of daily adjuvant radiation therapy for the right breast, subsequent to the chemotherapy, to end in February, 1999. A five year tamoxifen regimen was prescribed to reduce high levels of estrogen. Embarking on a new and perilous journey, I sought to embrace courage and wisdom in my life and settled into the routine of a breast cancer survivor. I am a native of Pasadena, CA, a free lance writer who
migrated from Long Beach, CA to New Haven, CT in April,
2002, after accepting a marriage proposal from a cherished
childhood neighbor and friend whom I had not seen for thirty
plus years. Gerald Thornton and I exchanged vows in Battel September 2003, with his blessing, I elected to have
trans-flap breast reconstructive surgery. I was now a
five-year breast cancer survivor, diagnosed as a viable
candidate for a first surgical phase which was an ambulatory
procedure performed at Yale-New Haven Hospital by J. Humor is an integral component of my daily activities.
Laughter nourishes my soul and energizes my faith. It is the
eminent healer. I found the uniqueness to sustain my being
through my writing. I bolster my blessings through the
strengths received from my husband, children,
grand-children and friends that have been by my side with
their presence and passion.
Kathleen Merritt- April 2005 My name is Kathleen L. Merritt. I am a native and resident of East Hartford, Connecticut. I am 62 years young and the proud mother of 4 children, Unique, Joseph, David and Gregory. I also am the grandmother of 13 grandchildren whom I love very much. My journey began in the year 2000. I had a lump in my right breast for quite some time. My doctor and I were monitoring it very closely. Because it was benign and not growing, I chose not to have it removed at that time. As I was examining myself one day, I notice that the lump seemed larger than usual. I immediately phoned my doctor to have it checked again. After an examination, my doctor recommended that I make
an appointment with my surgeon. The diagnosis was breast
cancer.After all options were given to me, my decision was to
immediately have surgery. From there was chemotherapy
and then radiation. My journey to recovery had begun with a I am now in my fifth year as a cancer survivor. Without the
support of my family, especially my daughter Unique, who
accompanied me to my appointments; my twin sister
Maureen; and my dear, dear friends, Pat, Lou and Marybell,
my journey would have been much, much, harder.
Jacqueline Jenkins- May 2005 In January 2000, after completing my monthly breast exam, I thought I felt a lump. I had a scheduled mammogram for later that month so I waited until then to talk to the doctor about it because I never felt it again. The day after the mammogram was performed; my doctor called me and said for me to see a surgeon as soon as possible. I set up an appointment and brought my x-rays. The lump was so close to my chest wall, that it could go undetected for a long time. The results of the biopsy confirmed cancer and after much prayer and consideration, I decided to have a mastectomy. I then underwent six months of chemotherapy and six weeks of radiation treatments. I want to thank my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ for blessing me with supportive family, great friends and a loving daughter. My advice for other women would be for them to know they
don’t have to take this journey alone. Be open, strong, and
don’t panic because “this too shall pass.” Have faith in our
Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and He will see you through.
This was a hard journey, but now I can say, “I am a survivor”!
Margaret Patterson- June 2005 Hi! My name is Margaret Patterson and I am a breast cancer survivor. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in October 1999. I discovered a lump a couple days after leaving the doctors office. I was asked to come in immediately. I was referred to see a specialist and she did a biopsy, which came back positive. I was floored! It is only by the grace of God that I came through with flying colors, because he told me that he would not put any more on me that I can handle. I had surgery because it had gone into the lymphoid. I went through chemotherapy and radiation, lost my hair after
the first treatment, was admitted in the hospital for six days
because the chemo was wiping out all my white blood cells
and my body was not able to fight off germs. But I knew that I
was going to be okay, because of my faith in God.
Lynn LaFrazier- July 2005 I first discovered that I had breast cancer in December of 1996. I went for my annual mammogram. It was then that the doctor discovered a lump in my left breast. I was told to have a biopsy. I then received the call from my doctor telling me that I had cancer. I was shocked! I didn’t want to believe that I had cancer. I had a lot of family and friends supporting me, especially my cousin Jeanett and my friend Linda. So, by February 1997 I had surgery. I had a lumpectomy. The doctor told me that my cancer was in the first stage, but suggested that I have radiation and chemotherapy. I thank God every morning when I wake up because three women who underwent the same treatments as I did are no longer here. I advise all women to have a mammogram once a year because had I not went for my yearly exam, I might not be here today. As a breast cancer survivor, I can tell you that early detection is the key. Thanks to Molly Myer and Dr. Farber at Yale Health Plan and
special thanks to Jehovah God for keeping me here.
Mildred Louise-Stevenson- August 2005 In February 1998, during my annual mammogram, the technician took several pictures of my right breast. A few days later the nurse at my gynecologist’s office said the doctor would like to see me. My gynecologist gave me the names of three good surgeons. I chose the best one for me and made an appointment at Yale New Haven Hospital to get a biopsy. The day I went for the biopsy, my husband (Leonard Stevenson) and my sister (Geraldine Gause) stayed with me through the entire procedure. Two days later my surgeon told me that I had a lump in my right breast. I went home and told my husband, my son, Mitchell, Sr., my daughter Michele and my two sisters. We were all very sad, but we knew that with the grace of God, we would get through this together. On March 10, 1998, I had a lumpectomy on my right breast
and 13 lymph nodes were removed from under my right arm.
The 13 lymph nodes were not cancerous (Thank God!)
Once I healed from the surgery, I went to the Father Michael
J. McGivney Center for Cancer Care. I was given radiation I would like to say to all women: Get checked annually! With
the grace of God, I am a breast cancer survivor.
Barbara Brown- September 2005 When I was diagnosed with breast cancer 15 years ago at
the age of 46, I was blessed to have been surrounded by
hundreds of persons who supported me during the entire
treatment process. At the time of my diagnosis I was an
elementary school Principal. The day after my cancer
diagnosis, I called a faculty meeting and shared the news
with my entire staff; they shared it with their students; and the
students with their parents. The entire County of Goochland,
Virginia knew of my battle with cancer. The school and Prior to my diagnosis in 1989, I had been diagnosed as
having fibroidal breasts and had undergone numerous
biopsies that were all benign. A few months prior to my
scheduled mammogram I felt another lump and asked for an
earlier mammogram than what had been scheduled for me. At the time, I was divorced and my younger daughter Mary was attending Spelman. On the day of the surgery my daughter Martha, who was at that time 24years old and a graduate of Hampton University, accompanied me to the hospital and prayed for me as I was escorted into the operating room. (At the age of 37, Martha was ordained as the first female deacon of our Church). I had a lumpectomy. Many lymph nodes were removed. This
was followed by 33 treatments of radiation and months of
chemotherapy.
I also agreed to participate in a clinical trial, and I encourage
my African American Sisters to give serious consideration
when asked to participate in a clinical trial. The blessing was
that I was never ill, neither from the chemotherapy nor from Dr. Lawrence invited me to participate in a video focusing on clinical trials and also invited me to speak before the General Assembly on insurance issues related to breast cancer. Due to my school community’s knowledge of my breast cancer, parents who were diagnosed felt very comfortable in using me as a sounding board as they struggled with their diagnosis. I was the first person in my family to be diagnosed with
breast cancer but my mother was diagnosed with breast
cancer at the age of 79. She is now 85 and continues to
take Tamoxifen. My daughters are now 35 and 40 years of
age, respectively. They have religiously had their
mammograms every year for the last 10 years.
I have become a true advocate for the support of my
African-American sisters with breast cancer. God has
endowed me with the ability to conduct breast cancer
workshops. My next presentation shall be on Lymphedema
even though I have a severe case of Lymphedema in my In April of 2004, I was selected to visit with President Bush at the White House to kick off the National Race for the Cure. I serve on the Board of the Massey Cancer Center Advisory Board and The Susan B. Komen Breast Cancer Board and I am an active member of the Richmond Chapter of Sister’s Network. I recently celebrated my 15th year as a breast cancer
survivor and invited 80 of my friends to worship with me and
my daughters at my Church. All of the survivors came to the
altar and a special prayer was offered for them. After the
worship service I hosted a Survivor Luncheon for them. I
know that God has blessed me and he wants me to always
be a support for my sisters through their journeys of healing.
Mary Alice Holmes- October 2005 I was then sent to a surgeon and, after a second opinion, the decision was made to have a lumpectomy performed. I had 10 lymph nodes removed, followed by chemotherapy and radiation. I have not yet been put on Tamoxofin, but today my prognosis is positive, and I feel just fine. I thank God for his divine intervention; for my two sons, John and William; and for my dear friend and fiancé Moore Crossey. I am also thankful for my church family and friends. Their prayers helped to sustain me during this difficult period. I learned from this experience just how important routine mammograms, second opinions, and the power of prayer truly are. I will always remember the words of the poem “Mother to
Son” by Langston Hughes: “Life for me ain’t been no crystal
stair... I’se still climbin...”
Eleanor Birt Caldwell- November 2005 My name is Eleanor Caldwell. I have two sons, Bill and
Bruce. My husband died on March 30, 1988. On that day I
lost my very best friend. Another significant event in my life occurred on a snowy day
in February, 1991. I had just settled down with a book and
with my dog Teddy in my lap, when I felt a strong dull burning
sensation in my left breast. The pain seemed to last forever.
When the pain subsided I performed a self exam. I I wasted no time in consulting with my primary physician, who referred me to a wonderful, very capable surgeon. My surgeon explained in detail what was going on inside of my body. He advised me to what my options were. I opted for radical mastectomy. After my surgery I was informed by my surgeon that I would
not need any after surgery treatment. However, he did stress
the importance of a sensible eating regiment, exercise and
most important an annual mammogram.
He also stressed the importance of taking the time to
Kathy Matthews-Barbour- December 2005 My name is Kathy Matthews-Barbour. I have two loving sons Jermaine and Shawn. Also, the proud grandmother of Jermaine, JR. After discovering the lump, I called my physician, Joel Silidker, who is a magnificent physician as well as a person. He scheduled an ultrasound. Yes, it was malignant, a biopsy confirmed it. He then called Dr. Nina Horowitz and setup up my surgery for a lumpectomy. I had 12 weeks of radiation at the Father McGinvey Cancer Center under the care of Dr.Robert Sinha. Through the grace of god and many prayers, I made it through. I thank God for the love and support of my loving husband Charles R. Barbour, family, and friends who continued to lift my spirits and give me encouragement. I continue to have checkups every six months along with self examinations. I want to thank a dear friend for all her love and support who
has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer. Our Lord and
Savior had not brought us this far to leave us now. It is
crucial for women, especially African American women to be
an advocate of their bodies.
The Lord is my Shepard!
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